This week I spent some time with clients who are facing their finances straight on. While they are very courageous and ultimately will experience good results, they – like many clients – are experiencing significant anxiety and grasping for solutions.
Seeing the clear picture and experiencing a high level of anxiety can lead to drastic thoughts like:
- I must sell my house
- I must move back in with my family
- I must withdraw from my retirement funds (if they exist)
Feeling like we must do something usually only heightens the intensity and negative emotions about the situation. It squelches our ability to come up with workable solutions.
A much more productive and appropriate response is to ground ourselves in the certainty that we have options.
Then, we need to flesh out what those options are.
There is always a spectrum of possible responses to any given situation. What are the various points on the spectrum and which ones could we live with?