She was young and gorgeous, earns crazy-crazy money and has nothing to show for it. She knows there are definitely ‘issues’ about money. She approached me in my role as money coach, and asked the searching question, “I’ve tried a lot of things, to gain control. What if, after my time with you, nothing really changes?”
What a penetrating question. And I could offer no real guarantees, because although as a coach I lead people through a distinct process – some of it dealing with technical issues (eg. creating a sane strategy to handle debt), some of it dealing with the softer side of emotions and money – the fact is, I simply offer the tools and resources. I cannot promise that the combination of my offerings, and the person’s desire and ability to change, will necessarily ‘take’. It usually does, and I have oodles of testimonials to that effect. But not always.
It’s hard, as a money coach, when you feel you’ve put your best out there, but the client for whatever reason isn’t able to move forward.
My question is: what do you think has been the key to real changes you’ve personally experienced in your habits/way of handling a particular issue?
and coaches/counsellors: how do you measure your effectiveness, and gauge when you need to sharpen your skills versus leaving responsibility for change with the client?