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OOPS! I guess someone in HR forgot to code something so someone in compensation would know to update their files so someone in payroll would drop a few dollars into my account on payday (last Friday).

Thankfully, the amazing person to whom I report confirmed her amazing-ness by getting all over this so with any luck my mortgage won’t bounce tomorrow. (and payroll did cut me a temp cheque, just not as much as it should be).

These things happen. But I cancelled my weekend getaway to Hawaii and just stayed home.

218317068_0e367bfc72_m.jpgSheila is a single mom with three kids. She lives in a the GT area. Her income is solid enough to keep her in reasonably solid financial shape. She does watch every penny though.

Sheila’s bf of 14 months is in a different tax bracket – he earns about $40K more than she does. And he doesn’t have kids. During the first months of love, this didn’t seem to be an issue. She was willing to be more extravagant than usual, and he also picked up the tab a lot.

Now, the difference is starting to bubble up to the surface. His lifestyle simply does include lots of weekends across the border, upper-scale dinners out at least a couple times a week, and a generally more easygoing way of spending his money.

Sheila is quietly starting to resent feeling obliged to rearrange her budget to afford this lifestyle – even though he does help defray the costs quite a lot. Lately her bf has also made an offhand comment or two about being willing to help pay for dates with her, but not if the kids are involved (eg. going out for pizza and a movie together – something she would do as a treat, not a regular event).

After affirming Sheila’s right to set financial boundaries, we came up with a few approaches on broaching this thorny topic. At this point, the starting place is simply opening the conversation, more than coming up with specific financial strategies. A couple “rules of engagement” included:

  1. Remove any judgment. Her bf is allowed to have the lifestyle he wants; she’s also allowed to put boundaries on her spending. He’s not being extravagant and she’s not being cheap.
  2. Give themselves permission for the conversation to be awkward and possibly go badly. It may take a few tries before talking about money, much less coming up with an M.O. that works, starts to come naturally.
  3. Assume the best possible outcome: that they can come up with ways that feel good to both of them that take into account both his lifestyle and her budget.

Readers: how have you started conversations about money with people close to you? Did it feel awkward? Did it get better? Did it create a wedge between you, or open the channel of communication?

photo credit: Rick

Water and money… some questions, some answers! From Raul, Vancouver’s academic-environmentalist-blogger. (thanks, Raul! you got me thinking, that’s for sure)


First of all, thanks to Nancy for inviting me to guest-blog on issues of money and sustainability. You’d be surprised to find that there are many more linkages than people think about. For this first post, and given that we recently celebrated World Water Day 2008 (some countries celebrate on March 20th, some on March 22nd and others on March 23rd), I wanted to highlight the linkages between money and water, given that water is one of the world’s most scarce resources (and at risk of becoming a commodity). As the Dublin Principle 4 indicates, water has an economic value:

Dublin Statement on Water and Sustainable Development (1992):
‘Principle No. 4: Water has an economic value in all its competing uses and should be recognized as an economic good. Within this principle, it is vital to recognize first the basic right of all human beings to have access to clean water and sanitation at an affordable price. Past failure to recognize the economic value of water has led to wasteful and environmentally damaging uses of the resource. Managing water as an economic good is an important way of achieving efficient and equitable use, and of encouraging conservation and protection of water resources.’ [United Nations’ World Water Development Report]

Water pricing in Canada is amongst the lowest amongst the developed world (at $ 0.40 per cubic metre, compared to $ 1.91 in Germany). While people often tend to believe that Canada doesn’t have problems with water scarcity (some statistics indicate that Canada has about 7% of the world’s supply of freshwater, you would be surprised at how much of a fallacy this statement is. Furthermore, this widespread belief (combined with the fact that much of Canada’s municipal water supply is not metered and thus consumption is not deterred by way of price differentials) has led some people to be wasteful with the precious liquid.

However, the pricing schemes looming in the future of Canadian residents will include both metering (and paying per cubic metre) and the concept of full cost recovery, which implies that you’ll be paying more if you consume more (also, the more you pollute water, the more you pay). So, the next time you want to find ways in which to reduce your spending, you may want to start thinking about ways to reduce water consumption. Your ecosystems will thank you, and so will your wallet.

Readers – I don’t know about you, but when I see the image below, I get pretty complacent about how much water I use. Do you make an effort to conserve water or like me ( busted!) do you not really even think twice about it?


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What the cbc is failing to deliver , RIP, thankfully Pacific Baroque Orchestra will provide — and free, this Friday.

C’mon down to my ‘hood (aka dtes) and enjoy some Mozart:

In the early eighteenth century, baroque was on its way out as Le Style Galant became all the rage. As music moved out of the church and into the courtly salon, elegant tunefulness and genteel accompaniment took over. Then, along came Mozart, who turned this style into some of the greatest classics of all time. Revel in the music of the thoroughly modern composer of his time. You’ll hear a violin sonata, a piano quartet, and Mozart’s take on some music by J.C. Bach, all played as he would have heard it. (editor’s note: this was directly pinched off PBO’s website)

Venue: St. James Anglican Church

This Friday (Mar 28), at 7:30pm (I’m quite sure)

(photo cred: elaine)


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